Wow.. has it really been over a week? (Listening to: Wonder Woman Theme)
I've been mulling this over for a long time now, and I've been trying to convince myself, and find a reason to believe that it's not true, but it truly is. The Sexual Revolution is over, and men have lost.
You see, women, your lot has been thrown and the die has been cast. You've become everything you aimed to become back in the 1950's when you burned your bras. In fact, we men have even stepped up your prize. You've not only gained equality among us men, it's gotten to the point where you don't even need us anymore. Allow me to explain.
Remember that young cave couple I mentioned a few blog posts ago? The man was needed in that relationship, because the woman could not go out and hunt on her own. The man was built stronger, faster than she, so she was left in the cave to tend to the young cave-children. And while the bump on her head hurt from being dragged there, she was sort of ok with her lot in life. Now, before all you feminists begin to raise Cain and tell me that I'm calling for a return to the "little-woman-takes-care-of-the-kids" society, let me allay your anger. I'm not saying that's what we should be, I'm just pointing out a fact. That's how things were.
Enter the 1950's. Women decide that they're not going to put up with being the "fairer sex" anymore, and things begin to change. Come 2004, and women look around and see that they can earn their own living, take care of children, be emotionally stable and make their own trail. Most importantly, they look around and see all these men and think, "Now.. why are you here?"
I used to wonder why there were so many single women who didn't seem to have time for relationships of a romantic nature. I see now that I was fooling myself. It's not that you don't have time for us, it's that you don't need us. Seriously, what does a woman need a man for now? Women used to need men to fight for them. To defend them against the evil of this world, and to drive fast cars towards cliffs to prove our masculinity so we could open the suicide door for you, and let you join us in our lives. But today's world has told us that "Being a man" is somewhat of an antiquated concept. No longer are we to fight each other to prove dominance. Sports and atletic competition are increasingly put-offs to women, and what we men stand for is becoming more and more dissatisfying to women. We can't be your knights in shining armor anymore, because the world has taken away all the dragons.
Men still need women, though, and here comes the sort of hole we've dug for ourselves. Men need to feel loved, to feel needed, to feel like we still matter in some way. We need sex, and intimacy more than women care to believe, and MUCH more then we're willing to admit. Women, on the other hand, don't need sex. Or physical love. They can go for years, even their whole lives without it and never feel like they've lost anything. A man goes for 25 years without sex, and his peers look down on him as if he is a freak.
So, Johnny, tell the women what they've won.
Alllll Righty, Madjai. Ladies, you've earned a life without dependency! That's right, you'll spend 65 years in a constant state of unease, pretending that you need men! You can do everything you need by yourself, but still society says that you need to get married. Fabulous prizes await you as you blaze your own trail to fame and glory, all the while owing your success to no one! You don't need the Marlboro Man, girls... You're perfect Just The Way You Are!!!
Think about this girls. Before you all tell me I'm a chauvenist pig and that I'm outdated in my thinking. It's not that we don't want you to be independent. We really do. We think you should get paid the same as us for the same work. But at the end of the day, we need you. Very badly. And you don't need us. And we're starting to wonder if we can ever go back to needing each other in a very real and powerful way. Or maybe we've gone too far, and soon, we'll all be single and loving it. Is that sad?
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"I'm just pointing out a fact. That's how things were."
Is that really how it was? Are you sure that isn't just your perception of it from the male written history books and your overexposure to cartoon based versions of history lessons? I mean come on, if your going to use a historical example as the beginning of a diatribe at least leave a little ambiguity in your initial conclusions in order to allow yourself to go back (especially useful if someone gets upset) and say that you weren't being absolute about it.
Sigh. OK, Chuck... Mr. "Everything-I-write-at-3-am-is-perfect." It's not a term paper. It's my blog. Unless you can provide some evidence that things weren't like that.. say.. maybe.. some ten thousand year old _female_ mastodon hunter encased in ice, I'd say I get the benefit of the doubt here.
Can't you both be right? Chuck has a point in that all history has been written and dictated by men. Nick has a point because that history is all we know.
By the way, Chuck, I think your point actually aids Nicks point. If all history is dictated by men, how did that happen? Did women just let us have that task and we used it to twist history? No, we had dominance historically which is WHY we wrote the history. No doubt its heavily influenced (and perhaps in fact twisted) because men wrote it all, but we wrote it all BECAUSE we were, in fact, dominant.
"what we men stand for is becoming more and more dissatisfying to women"
could you please elaborate on this? what exactly is it that "men stand for?"
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though i'm heartened that you see the women today as hard-working, independent, and intelligent (though i'm still a bit undecided as to whether this psuedo-diatribe is a plea for women to want and need men again), you may still be in the minority. also, you may be a bit disillusioned that the fight is over and we've won equality, because we haven't--among other things, we still make less money on the dollar than men, and our tee box is closer to the fairway.
case in point: in my family, women are not allowed to participate in the farm. this was explained very nicely to me when i expressed interest in a major at SDSU in soil conservation. if you want to be a part of the business, you marry one of the boys of the family and then spend the rest of your married life cooking for your husband and the hired men.
case in point: after my fiction seminar ended at 10:00 p.m. a few weeks ago, a male classmate came up to me and said, "let me walk you to your car; women should not walk alone." i very nicely declined--a bit offended, but also because i needed to speak with the professor--and when i came out of the building fifteen minutes later, he was waiting for me in order to "give me a second chance" because really, "women can't walk alone"--and didn't i realize that he was trying to pick me up?
(yes, yes, how stupid of me. the pick up lines that paint me as a weak and timid woman who needs to be guided and protected by a man ALWAYS work. they're my favorite)
(on a side note, this is also the guy who confessed he only SAYS his major is environmental politics because it makes women fall all over him)
case in point: the director of writing and two other professors never fail to insist that when i conduct individual conferences with male students to address problems in the classroom, one of them must be present because-- and they say this quite blatantly-- i am female.
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again, please elaborate on "what men stand for"
"women are the weaker vessels." i never get tired of hearing that.
interestingly enough, the blog directly after yours tonight on the "random blog wheel" is this one:
http://fenderpooh.blogspot.com/
i am still raging against his newest post on AIDS awareness, as most of you will be as well, but if you scroll down to the blog marked "Chivalry," he makes some interesting comments on God-ordained gender roles and men's responsibilities to women.
i ask you Christians--is he correct in his interpretation of God's word?
And I ask you Nicholases, Nicholasi?, Nicholasians...
I talk to you on the phoen like every day so I know you didn't die! Will you post something? 10 DAYS! Come one man, just put the fucking lotion in the basket.
insane in ohio
seriously nick, post. Do it. Do it now. I have you earmarked for a once a week check up to see if there is anything I can make fun of and I haven't been getting that fix now for too long. too, too long. there are certain times at 3:44 in the morning where I rely on being able to redirect my insomniac causing stresses out on some typo or point of interest that I can exploit.
These damn blog things have become my replacement for checking people's IM away messages, which has apparently gone out of style as nobody puts up anything of note anymore. There is something ritualistic in it, I cant really explain it, it is like checking in on your baby in the crib to make sure it isn't dead, or reading anything by Ayn Rand.
I can only offer as an explanation of why you should post more by repeating to you something that a confused 15 yr. old girl wrote to me on the back of the peice of paper that had her phone number on it circa 1996. "save me. 239-4268."
I only called it once but she wasnt home. I never called back cause I didn't really know what 'save me' meant and it kinda creeped me out. Especially if she did need saving from something, I dont do knight.
But tonight, the signal is not hazed by any sort of a mixed signal, it may still be a little creepy, but it is clear. post nick, post now.
I leave this all too long plead for some half assed comment on your life with a phrase I read on a overpass driving hopped up on one of those two dollar energy packets you can get at gas stations. I believe I was somewhere in the middle of texas 2002, bout the same time, 4ish, it read:
"Class of '86 Rulz!"
I think you can learn something from that, like that you should post more often.
yeah, you really should post a new site. I mean, at least people are reading yours ;) and they want more, so type away. I dont know what's holding you back. But .. we need some profound insight on the way of life.
peace
T-t-t-today junior.
did nick die?
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