Losing a friend

Hey blogsite friends, how are we today? (listening to: Soul Asylum, "Misery")

Question for the day: What's worth fighting for? If you had, for example, a brother you didn't get along with all that well, would you just pretend to like him at holidays and family picnics? or mightn't you sit down with him and figure out just what it is that sits at the bottom of your dispute? Wouldn't it be better to sit down, break bread, and find out just what's wrong in your relationship? Maybe I'm old-fashioned, but if people actually talked about things that bothered them, rather than saying, "I'm fine," or "I don't want to talk about it," wouldn't the world be a better place?

Now, I'm not saying that there isn't a time and place for moments of pause. Time to reflect, and examine, what you're feeling and what that means. But when that time is over, don't you think that there are some relationships in your life that are worth fighting tooth and nail to save, rather than to just say, "You know, this just isn't working. I think I'm done with this." Maybe more marriages would last in this country if people were willing to talk over their problems, rather than just argue about them until the fight becomes so big that you can't see what the problem is anymore. It's all about the fight.

But it's not, people. And I mean this. So, listen the fuck up. Fighting gets you somewhere, sure. Letting off anger in a heated discussion can be very cathartic for both people, and may be the best way to let the other person know that the situation being created is completely unacceptable to you. But at the end of the fight, it really is time to kiss and make up. If you've taken the time to be friends with this person, then there's something underneath each one of your little annoyances that the other person enjoys. Whatever that may be, it's important to see that, and not lose sight of that. If the time comes to move on with your life, then that's the decision that needs to be made. But make damn sure that that's the only option left before you tell someone that you need to move on.

Personal relationships are some of the most precious things we as human beings have in this world, and to lose one for something trivial is a catastrophe. Love one another, be understanding, and show them that you love them once in a while. You may find that the trust you gain, and the friendship that you share might just be enough to save your life someday. And don't take that lightly. I know from experience.

"And, in the end, the love you take is equal to the love you make."
-John Lennon

"Be Excellent to each other."
-Abraham Lincoln, as quoted by _Bill & Ted's Excellent Adventure_